Guiding your child through their first periods

The arrival of your child’s first period marks a significant moment in their development, signaling both physical and emotional growth. How you introduce this change will influence their perception of this natural transition. A thoughtful, open approach can alleviate any fears, normalize the experience, and empower them as they navigate this milestone.

Why it’s important to prepare your child

As a parent, it’s vital to help your child view menstruation as a normal, healthy part of growing up. By talking about it early, you’re demystifying the process and making it feel less intimidating. This also helps reduce their anxiety about what’s to come, creating a sense of reassurance and understanding.

Starting the conversation in advance ensures that your child feels confident and supported when the time comes. It also strengthens your bond by opening up a space for trust and dialogue.

When should you start the conversation?

There’s no perfect age to begin talking about periods, but puberty provides clear signs that it's time. Physical changes often prompt curiosity and questions, giving you the ideal opportunity to discuss what’s happening in their body.

Breast development

One of the first signs of puberty is the development of breasts, which may be tender or sore.

Hair growth

The appearance of pubic and underarm hair is another sign that puberty is underway.

Vaginal discharge

An increase in vaginal discharge is usually a precursor to menstruation.

In addition, the mood swings that often accompany puberty can also be linked to the hormonal shifts that signal the start of menstruation. By discussing these changes openly, you help your child understand their body and reassure them that everything they’re going through is part of a normal process.

How should you broach the subject?

Here are some tips to help guide the conversation in a natural and comfortable way:

• Use age-appropriate books to introduce the subject
• Share reliable online resources that offer helpful information
• Create a welcoming environment where your child feels safe to ask questions
• If appropriate, share your own experience with menstruation

During these discussions, ensure your child feels supported, not judged. Adverse reactions or discomfort can make the conversation feel more awkward than it needs to be. Answer questions honestly, whether they’re about sanitary products, possible discomfort, or the daily impacts of having a period.

Let your child know that everyone experiences menstruation differently, but it’s completely normal to have questions or concerns.

Including boys in the conversation

Education about menstruation should go beyond young women—it should also involve young men. By breaking the silence around periods, we can create a more inclusive dialogue that removes the stigma and promotes understanding. When young men are educated early on, they not only gain a better understanding of the female body but also contribute to creating a respectful environment where young women feel heard and valued.

What types of sanitary products are available?

Various menstrual products are available, each suited for different needs. Educating your child on the options is important so they can make informed choices.

Sanitary pads

These are the most common, simple, and easily accessible option. Pads attach to the inside of underwear with an adhesive and come in various sizes and absorption levels based on menstrual flow. It’s important to change pads every 4 to 6 hours to avoid discomfort and prevent infection.

Tampons

Tampons are inserted into the vagina and absorb menstrual flow. They’re a great option for active young girls who enjoy moving around or playing sports. However, they need to be changed every 4 to 8 hours to prevent the risk of toxic shock syndrome from prolonged wear.

Menstrual cup

This option is gaining popularity due to its sustainability and eco-friendliness. The menstrual cup is placed inside the vagina to collect menstrual flow. It has a large capacity and can be reused for several years. However, it may not be the best choice for first-time menstruators due to its practical considerations and the need for comfort and familiarity with one’s body.

Menstrual underwear

Menstrual underwear is a recent alternative that is highly comfortable. Whether worn alone or as a complement to another product, it absorbs menstrual flow. The advantage is that it is washable and reusable.

It’s helpful to encourage your adolescent to try different options to find what works best for her based on her activities, daily routine, and menstrual flow. While providing all the necessary information, it’s important to respect her choice. However, emphasize hygiene and the need to change products regularly to avoid infections or irritation.

What to do in uncomfortable moments?

No one is immune to leaks or stains on their clothes. Embarrassing moments can happen, whether at home or at school, and it’s important to discuss this with your adolescent so she’s prepared.

For example, you can help her assemble a small school kit, including spare products, wipes, and extra underwear.

Sometimes, the start of a period can be painful, so it’s also important to talk about pain management during periods. Exercise and playing sports often provide relief, but there are also medications available for this purpose. Your pharmacist can offer valuable advice.

Talking openly about menstruation helps break down the taboos surrounding it.

Here’s to open and honest discussions!

Text written in collaboration with Vie de Parents.