Modern sexuality glossary: Understanding the new terms

Today, our understanding of sexuality and relationships is evolving rapidly. New terms are emerging, allowing individuals to express their identities and experiences with greater precision. Exploring these concepts not only broadens our perspectives but also fosters respect and inclusivity. Here’s a guide to help you navigate these terms and gain a deeper understanding of modern sexuality.

Sexual attraction vs. romantic attraction

First, it’s important to distinguish between sexual and romantic attraction, as they don’t always go hand in hand. Sexual attraction refers to physical desire toward another person, while romantic attraction is about emotional intimacy and a longing for connection. For example, someone might feel romantic attraction without sexual desire (which is common among asexual individuals) or vice versa.

Demiromantic

The term demiromantic refers to a person who only feels romantic attraction once a strong emotional bond has been established. Unlike people who can feel romantic attraction immediately, demiromantics need time and emotional connection before developing this type of feeling.

Aromantic

Aromantic people rarely, if ever, feel romantic attraction to other people. This doesn't mean that they don't feel love or affection; romantic love is simplly not a priority or a need in their relationships. Aromantics can, however, maintain strong bonds of friendship or other meaningful connections instead

Demisexuality

Demisexuality is a term for a sexual orientation in which sexual attraction occurs only after a deep emotional connection has been developed. Unlike those who can experience immediate physical attraction, demisexuals need to feel emotionally connected before experiencing sexual desire.

Asexuality and relationships

Asexuality refers to a sexual orientation in which sexual attraction is absent or considerably reduced. Asexual people can still feel romantic attraction and maintain intimate relationships, even if they don't necessarily have sexual desire. For example, an asexual person might be in a romantic relationship and express affection in non-physical ways.

Asexual people in relationships often develop very open and honest forms of communication to reconcile their needs with those of their partner. In some cases, they may opt for compromise or explore other aspects of intimacy that are meaningful to them.

Relationships and family models

As mindsets have evolved, new relationship and family models have emerged. Let's explore some of these configurations:

Open couple

An open relationship involves partners who remain emotionally committed while allowing sexual relationships outside the couple. This dynamic often relies on clear rules and honest communication to maintain trust and prevent misunderstandings.

Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice of maintaining multiple romantic relationships simultaneously, with the consent and knowledge of everyone involved. Unlike infidelity, polyamory is built on transparency and mutual respect. It encompasses various dynamics, allowing individuals to find the balance that works best for them.

These relationship models challenge traditional ideas of monogamy and offer more freedom in how people express love and commitment.

Why are these terms important?

Les termes que nous utilisons pour décrire notre orientation et nos relations ne sont pas simplement des étiquettes; ils nous permettent d’exprimer notre identité et de mieux nous The terms we use to describe our orientation and relationships are not simply labels; they enable us to express our identity and better understand ourselves as well as others. Using these words respectfully helps us recognize the diversity of human experience and promote a more inclusive and empathetic society.

In conclusion, whether these orientations and relationship models resonate with you personally or you’re looking to understand others better, learning about these terms is a step toward embracing the complexity of human connections. In an ever-changing world, self-awareness and acceptance of others are key to building a more respectful and inclusive society.

Article written in collaboration with Au Lit avec Anne-Marie.